My clients seem relieved that they have someplace to go to discuss these things with a professional. I’ve been helping guys with sexual issues for almost my whole career, though, because most of my clients are gay men who feel more comfortable discussing very personal sexual issues with another gay man, especially one with a lot of experience and one who doesn’t shy away from frank discussions of intimate details. Lately, I’ve had more and more gay men come to me with issues more specifically about sex therapy, and currently as of this writing (June, 2019), I’m undergoing the education and supervision process to become a Certified Sex Therapist. I work with guys on lots of issues and disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, ADD, substance abuse recovery, dating skills, career planning, and couples in conflict. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men for over 27 years, as individuals and couples. In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead.
In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming. The eggplant emoticon is often used online, such as in Instagram or gay apps like Grindr and Scruff, to connote a penis.
